Well i have been stuck in static trying to analyse the situation. I have become even more attracted to him. It doesn’t seem to make sense , i have told no one because , well i’m too scared, what if he only likes me as a friend and my admission makes the friendship null and void. i would be sad to lose him as a friend.
I wait for a sign, i want a sign. This could go on for years at this rate. The thing is that he is very attractive and i know that other women notice him, and in my heart i probably know i couldn’t could compare to the endless reams of of femal admireres. I see them all and i realise all (well most) of them are these women comform to what society considers (and probably what he considers) attractive. These women are mostly white are all white, tall conform to the european T.O.A.ST aesthetic (tits on a stick).
Then i felt like a fool, who am i This petite black girl, with her with bottom ,smallish breasts, holding a silent candle for this guy who could pick and choose from so many women who society holds above me.
Surely i cannot win in this situation. i wish i could, he is clever, smart and funny and physically fit sexy and just all i want in a man.
Maybe i should just settle for friendship… Is that the better option. I should keep the lid on my lust.
advice is gratefully recieved.
go, tell him you like him. don’t be such a loser. at least, give it a try.
There you go, comparing yourself to other women and coming in second again.
Stop it !
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, not the beholdee. ( Is that a word ? )
“Surely i cannot win in this situation.”. This situation is that you haven’t made a move over the past few months. What are you trying to do; wait until somebody snaps him up just so you can say “There, I told you he would fancy somebody else more than me” ?
To win a race you have to take the first step.
Break the ice.
Ask him a question that will illicit more than a yes/no answer.
You like food… ask him what kind of food he likes.
You like movies… ask him what he thinks of the Oscar results.
When he replies, follow it up with “Fancy going for a (whatever meal)/movie some time ?”
I know you’re frightened that he might reject you, but you’re in a win/win situation here….
a) He responds favourably. You’ve broken the ice, and can move forward, hopefully to a good result.
b) He says no. You can move on with your life, free yourself from the emotional shackles of the past few months, and look to new horizons.
Win/win.
Good luck whichever way it goes.